Finding the Path

Is This For You?

You've named what happened.
Now you're asking different questions.

Many excellent programmes help survivors understand the dynamics of abuse and recognise controlling behaviour. Finding the Path builds on that foundation. It's for people who've already done some of that naming — and are ready to turn their attention inward.

You've left, or are processing having left, a coercive or controlling relationship

You find yourself asking Who am I outside of this?

You struggle to trust your own instincts and reactions

You've asked yourself why does this keep happening to me? — and you're ready for a real answer

You want to understand your nervous system's responses — not just manage them

You want to do this work with other people who understand — not in isolation

About the Programme

Understanding abuse and understanding yourself — these are different journeys.

"Who am I outside this? How do I trust myself again? What does my nervous system need to feel safe?"

Finding the Path is designed for survivors who've done the early naming work and are now ready to go deeper — into their internal world. We look at identity reclamation, nervous system awareness, and the parts of you that formed in response to what you experienced.

This isn't about labelling your former partner or diagnosing your relationship. This is about turning the lens inward — understanding your own patterns, signals, and the younger parts of you that are still running old strategies. Moving from understanding the abuse to understanding yourself.

Over 12 weeks, meeting as a small group, you'll move through three arcs: understanding the fog you were in, tracing how you got there, and beginning to find the path forward. Not a destination — a direction. That's enough.

The group is held using the Campfire Model — nobody sits above the fire. Every participant brings equal worth to the space. Sarah holds the map; the journey is yours.

What's Included

Everything you need for the twelve weeks

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12 Live Group Sessions

Two hours per week, held online via video call. Small group — deliberately — so the campfire stays warm.

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Participant Teaching Workbook

A structured companion that holds the frameworks, exercises, and reflections from each session. Yours to keep.

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Private Journal

A separate personal journal for your own reflections — completely private. Nothing in it needs to be shared.

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Psychoeducational Frameworks

Grounded in neuroscience and trauma research — parts work, nervous system theory, relational blueprint mapping, and more. Translated into plain, human language.

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Group Signposting & Resources

A curated reference of national and local support services, for whenever you need more than the programme holds.

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The Campfire Community

A small, contained group of people who understand. The co-regulation that happens between participants is not incidental — it is part of the work.

The Programme

Twelve weeks. Three parts. One direction.

Each session follows the same underlying pattern: first, recognition — helping you see your experience in the framework. Then, understanding — language and structure that helps it make sense. Mirror, then map. Being seen before being taught.

Part One · Weeks 1–5

In the Fog — Where am I and what is happening to me?

Wk 1

Welcome to the Campfire

Orientation and psychological safety. Setting the agreements, introducing the space, and building the container that carries everything that follows.

Wk 2

The Fog Has a Name

Naming the confusion — cognitive distortion, time distortion, and the neuroscience of gaslighting. Replacing I was crazy with my mind was working very hard.

Wk 3

What Love Bombing Does to a Brain

The neuroscience of bonding, intermittent reinforcement, and trauma bonding. Understanding why leaving is hard from a biological — not a moral — frame.

Wk 4

Meeting Our Parts

An introduction to parts work using the football team analogy — understanding the different responses, protective behaviours, and internal voices as a team trying to keep you safe.

Wk 5

Befriending Our Parts

Compassion, unblending, and co-regulation. Moving from I am terrified to a part of me feels terrified — and beginning to respond to your own parts with kindness.

Part Two · Weeks 6–9

How I Got Here — Understanding the path that led me to the forest

Wk 6

The Roots

Early environments and relational learning — why familiar can feel like safety even when it isn't, and how the nervous system learned what love looks like.

Wk 7

When the Signals Go Quiet

Internal signal suppression — how instincts get turned down, not switched off, and how to begin hearing them again. The body was talking. We were taught not to hear it.

Wk 8

Why Me — Reframed

The shame dismantling session. Answering the question no one wants to ask aloud — and replacing what is wrong with me? with something much closer to the truth.

Wk 9

The Parts Across Time

Connecting childhood parts to adult responses — tracing the thread between the child who learned a strategy and the adult who is still running it. With tenderness, not blame.

Part Three · Weeks 10–12

Finding the Path — Where do I go from here?

Wk 10

The Signals Are Still There

Reconnecting with internal knowing — rebuilding the daily practice of listening to yourself. Not a new skill. Clearing static around something that was always there.

Wk 11

Designing a Different Environment

The Environmental Activation Framework — understanding how environments activate us, and beginning to make small, intentional choices about the world you are building.

Wk 12

The Clearing

Integration, hope, and closing the campfire. Not resolution — orientation. You leave with a better map than the one you arrived with. That is not nothing. That is everything.

How It Works

Practical details

Format

Live online group sessions via video call. Small group — deliberately kept intimate so the campfire stays warm and every voice has space.

Duration

12 weeks. Each session runs for 2 hours. Same time, same day each week — consistent rhythm matters for nervous system safety.

What This Is

A psychoeducational group programme — not therapy, not crisis support. Frameworks, language, and guided reflection in a held group space.

What This Isn't

A clinical service. If you are in crisis or need one-to-one therapeutic support, Sarah will point you toward appropriate resources. Both can coexist — they serve different needs.

Sharing

Voluntary, always. Silence is welcome at this fire. You don't need to label your relationship or share anything you aren't ready to share.

Dates & Times

Cohort dates to be confirmed. If you're interested in the first cohort, reserve your place now and you'll receive full details by email.

Pricing — Completely Upfront

Here's what it costs.

No pricing hidden at the bottom. No long scroll to reach the number. This is what the programme costs — and why it's priced this way.

First Cohort Only

Early Adopter Price

£537

You save £60 — 10% off the full price

This cohort is the first time Finding the Path runs publicly. The early adopter price reflects that — and my gratitude to the people who trust the programme before the testimonials exist.

Full Price from Cohort 2

£597

This is the standard price the programme will be offered at from the second cohort onward.

Reserve My Place — £537

Questions before committing? Email Sarah directly. No sales process. Just a conversation.

Please Read

A note on safety and suitability

This programme has a safeguarding framework in place.

Finding the Path is a psychoeducational programme, not a clinical or crisis service. Every session is held with a clear disclosure response protocol and national and local signposting available throughout.

If you are currently in an unsafe situation, please contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge): 0808 2000 247 — free, 24/7. This programme is designed for survivors who are at a stage where group psychoeducation can be safely held alongside their existing support.

If you're unsure whether Finding the Path is right for where you are right now, email Sarah. That conversation is free and without any pressure.

Your Facilitator

Sarah Howard

Trauma-Informed Empowerment Practitioner

Sarah is the founder of Soulful Horizons and the creator of Finding the Path. She holds an Integrated Master's in Psychology and Counselling Studies from Birmingham City University and has developed the programme's frameworks over years of study, practice, and — in many cases — lived experience.

She works as a psychoeducational group facilitator, not a therapist or clinician. That distinction is deliberate: the campfire model means nobody sits above the fire. Sarah holds the map. The journey belongs to the people in the room.

Her work is grounded in the research of Porges, Dana, Fisher, van der Kolk, Herman, and Gilbert — and translated out of the clinical into the human. Because that's where most of us actually live.

"I've been in the forest too. That's why I hold the map."

You've named what happened.Now you're asking different questions.